My post got removed on my GC forum and was dismissed on /pol/ so I'm posting here as a last resort. It seems that they think my post is a concern troll, but it's a cry for help. It's 4chan after all and I know there are some sensible people here. It's worth a shot.

Maybe we didn't realize how pervasive gender is in real life. Maybe "we can always tell" was but a comforting cope we told ourselves.

Because it wasn't like how online critical spaces said it was. This gender roleplay goes back decades. These people are so fully invested in their gender that we perhaps may not always be able to tell. Too far gone.

My sister took the plunge 20 years ago. If you didn't know this, you'd genuinely never be able to tell that she is a woman (TIF). She moved west in 2007 so I didn't get to see this mutilation happening in real time. Fast forward and she comes down for a vacation and wants to visit the family. My dad urges me to go fishing with her (whom he calls "him") because she doesn't return often. Is that so unreasonable? Then there's a social expectation that she should engage with my sons at the very least. They're her nephews after all.

Now, at this point, what can you do? If anything, you might even hope that everyone plays along with her gender identity so that your impressionable young boys don't get any ideas. Am I better off just pretending? She never brings up her transition herself. It is really difficult to spin a narrative about her being bad, incompetent or one to avoid in general. Can I have that talk with my sons? Can I convince them that she's their aunt? Can I convince them that she made a mistake by "turning into a man" when she's the spitting image of a perfect man?

The sad reality is that we who're critical of gender ideology don't yet fathom the immense social pressures of gender ideology. Inescapable. My only option is to cut her out and I don't know if I can do it when my own father is pressuring me to meet with her. I'm at wit's end.

My post got removed on my GC forum so I'm resorting to this cesspit. Maybe men have some unique insight on the matter. It's worth a shot.

Maybe we don't realize how pervasive gender ideology is in real life. Maybe "we can always tell" was but a comforting cope we told ourselves, bracing for the inevitable.

Because in real life, it wasn't like how critical spaces on the internet said it was. This gender roleplay goes back decades. These people are so fully invested in their gender that we perhaps may not always be able to tell. Too far gone.

My very sister took the plunge 20 years ago and if you didn't know this, you'd genuinely never be able to tell that she is a woman (TIF). She moved out west in 2007 so I didn't get to see this mutilation happening in real time. Fast forward and she comes back for a vacation and wants to visit the whole family. My dad is urging me to go fishing with her (who he calls "him") because she doesn't come back here often. Is that so unreasonable?

Then there's a certain social expectation that she should meet my sons at the very least. They are her nephews, after all.

Now, at this point, what can you do? If anything, you might even hope that everyone plays along with her gender identity so that your impressionable young boys don't get any ideas. Am I better off just pretending? She never brings up her transition herself. It is really, really difficult to spin a narrative about her being bad, incompetent or someone to avoid in general. Can I really have that talk with my sons? Can I convince them that she's their aunt? Can I convince them that she made a mistake by "turning into a man" when she's the spitting image of a perfect man?

I think the reality is that we who are critical of gender ideology don't yet fathom the immense social pressures of gender ideology. This is inescapable. My only option is to cut her out and I don't know if I can do that when my own father is pressuring me to meet up with her.