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7/21/2025, 8:03:36 AM
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>I can understand why doing that is so hard for slaves.
It's the other way around actually. It's the easiest thing in the world. What comes after is often the problem. Very common for emotionally dependent people to latch onto a prospective master and then not have the emotional skills needed to actually maintain a relationship.
>these relationships tend to be tough since life as a slave is very hard, just a different type of hard that is suited to them
I recently read "Maybe you’re not Actually Trying: On selective agency in capable people" by Cate Hall. I recommend looking into it. I think it really applies to M/s relationships.
I work a lot. Naturally, I've neglected other areas in my life. Areas where I'm expending a lot of effort, but where I'm not "Actually Trying" by Cate's definition, because I've not been able to give it the focused attention it deserves.
When I went full time, this freed up a whole ton of time and spoons. As part of my training, I was forced to give those other areas attention. In three months, I got way better at planning meals and keeping the fridge stocked, better at cooking, and my executive dysfunction greatly improved. I also started making a lot more progress in therapy, because I had the time and energy to think about things from new angles.
>You can do a lot when you have Master on your mind and His whip at your back.
It's a lot easier to do things for mistress than it is to do it for myself. Submission is hard, but the opportunity to make Her proud makes motivation easy. Once I got a new job, moved out, and returned to normal life, motivation got a lot harder. I had to learn to love myself again without mistress doing it for me. Habits became more difficult.
Strangely enough, I retained all the skills I learned, and the perspective I gained during that time has been tremendously useful the last few years. I learned so much in those three months that I want to do it again.
>I can understand why doing that is so hard for slaves.
It's the other way around actually. It's the easiest thing in the world. What comes after is often the problem. Very common for emotionally dependent people to latch onto a prospective master and then not have the emotional skills needed to actually maintain a relationship.
>these relationships tend to be tough since life as a slave is very hard, just a different type of hard that is suited to them
I recently read "Maybe you’re not Actually Trying: On selective agency in capable people" by Cate Hall. I recommend looking into it. I think it really applies to M/s relationships.
I work a lot. Naturally, I've neglected other areas in my life. Areas where I'm expending a lot of effort, but where I'm not "Actually Trying" by Cate's definition, because I've not been able to give it the focused attention it deserves.
When I went full time, this freed up a whole ton of time and spoons. As part of my training, I was forced to give those other areas attention. In three months, I got way better at planning meals and keeping the fridge stocked, better at cooking, and my executive dysfunction greatly improved. I also started making a lot more progress in therapy, because I had the time and energy to think about things from new angles.
>You can do a lot when you have Master on your mind and His whip at your back.
It's a lot easier to do things for mistress than it is to do it for myself. Submission is hard, but the opportunity to make Her proud makes motivation easy. Once I got a new job, moved out, and returned to normal life, motivation got a lot harder. I had to learn to love myself again without mistress doing it for me. Habits became more difficult.
Strangely enough, I retained all the skills I learned, and the perspective I gained during that time has been tremendously useful the last few years. I learned so much in those three months that I want to do it again.
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