So I know my Boyfriend is cheating on me, I just need the evidence! Yes, I'm a girl coming to this board for advice, so I know you will try to take away my agency and use tricks and tactics like "logic" to try to distract from the issue. I'm hoping there are enough folks here that aren't assholes that are willing to help me.

Anyways all the signs are there. He's working lots of overtime, he'll cancel coming over sometimes after work because he is tired. When we do have sex, he is wanting to try different things now and be more adventurous. He's putting more effort into his appearance than when we even first started dating. He also has been more emotionally distant.

And of course he has an explanation for everything, oh work is brutal right now and he is always tired and that is why he is distant. He's more focused on his appearance to make a good impression at work. He's been wanting to connect more with me and that is why the change to wanting to try different things sexually. I just am not buying any of this. My gut tells me this is bullshit.

The problem is I can't see to get him on anything? I want to fucking bust him and catch him red handed and I need that to really lay into him and break it off, and I'm just not finding the evidence I need. He's doing a damn good job of hiding it. Like when he cancels coming over, he must be using an uber because I've driven by his place and his car is always there. That or his hussie is picking him up. I've looked through his phone and I'm not finding shit there either. He has to have a burner for this. I just need help finding where else to look for evidence! I know there are some really smart people here that have busted there SOs cheating before, so please give me some tips and advice.