i think i posted on a atoga thread and it got archived soon after lole, anyways im a femanon and my two questions are
1.) what can i do for a man thats struggling, and how do i reach out and check on him in a way that makes him feel safe and needed? im a bit bad with knowing what to say to men, how men feel about women is often how i feel about men, theyre confusing to me lol. it would be much appreciated if anyone had any tips in this department, or even just ways to nudge a guy to say "hey im thinking about you and i care dude".

2.) how do i be nice to some men without them thinking im interested. for context im a pretty unattractive woman but i try to be kind to everyone for the most part, i dont want men to be uncomfortable if they think im flirting with them when im simply trying to be nice. thankfully i dont encounter that as much anymore, maybe my social skills improved? it does happen once in a while and i feel bad for burdening them with the thought of that. how to i approach it?