Been awake 21 hours im so eepy
>>40443806
Yeah... I have a complex relationship with authority here (UK) but honestly I just wish they'd stop talking about trans stuff entirely. Even when feigning progress they didn't really provide help.
>>40444423
Being likeable is kind of a game of just doing stuff. Having interests and expressing them.
Transitioning will (or I'm assuming) bring you more engagement with people similar to you.
For me ofc my whole thing irl is basically the military, but also just being a fairly competent professional means people like me (? I guess, at least in work but they don't know I'm trans).
If it's trauma dumping you basically just have to exercise self control, in my experience most of us tranners have some kind (multiple frequently) of out there trauma that normies can't handle.
Whether you're actually being self centered or not I can't say, but generally even my slightly autistic style of relating (ie: where i yap about my related experience) doesn't routinely drive people off.
>>40449412
I don't think it takes much to find someone, obvs I'm the wrong person to talk abt this but just being a stable adult is enough for many. Idk, I'm too insecure / anxious avoidant to do relationships atm.
>>40449537
I have like no stake in all this so can't take sides or whatever (like idk which gen this is from) but honestly I dont see you getting any catharsis from engaging still. Sometimes you won't get along with people, sometimes they'll hurt you or you'll feel hurt anyway but you gain nothing by holding out for reconciliation. I mean christ of all ive been through exactly one person (who wasn't even a perpetrator of anything against me) has apologised for what I went through and it was over half a decade post event.

Also sorry to both of you if this is like a wishy washy response. Because I have more thoughts but they're not productive and I don't think I understand your situation well enough to add something useful beyond that