>>81824917
The problem is you're going for girls who are here to meet people, which means they're chasing the novelty high you mentioned. I have made this mistake you're making as well so I know exactly what you are talking about and how they behave. The one good relationship I had with a 4chan girl came when neither of us were looking to meet anyone and it happened organically.
>2011 /b/, I was 21
>thread about animals and pets
>get into a nice discussion with another anon
>thread is about to 404
>post my throwaway email to keep chatting
>anon emails me
>we talk for a few more hours, then have a bunch of other similar discussions over the next week (nothing sexual or romantic, I assumed I was talking to a guy)
>eventually we discuss vidya
>start playing games together on Steam
>get on mics
>wtf anon is a grill my age
>then find out she lives relatively close, only a couple hours away
>we exchange pics and make plans to meet at the state fair
>instant chemistry IRL
>it felt like we had been friends for years, zero awkwardness, we were both really into each other
>get a hotel and fuck nonstop the next few days
>become bf/gf, spend other every other weekend together for the next few months
>after about 7-8 months she moves in with me and we dated for 3 years