watching porn and maintaining healthy sexual relationships with partners had never been a problem for me, until my current relationship became the longest I've ever had. About 2 years into my relationship with my now wife, I opened my laptop with her next to me and there was porn on the screen. She didn't have an insane reaction, but she did say "Hey! I don't like that you watch that... Porn ruins relationships you know". And I said "yes, yes, don't worry. I can stop whenever, and if you don't want me watching it that's no problem, I'll just stop"

And of course, I just brushed her off, continued using it, because to me I thought I was different, and it wasn't really affecting our sex life satisfaction.

Then some more months went by I noticed that I dreaded anticipating my wife wanting sex, because I knew deep down that I was more satisfied by the porn I was watching, and jerking myself off. That, and the fact that I had typically already used up my energy on porn during the day, and she wanted to get sexy at night.

I would have to imagine porn scenes to stay hard, I'd even have to some times hype myself up with porn in the bathroom before getting into bed to get my libido where it needed to be to perform.

For a while, we just didn't really have sexy times at all, because I lacked interest in it. The final straw and what made me realize I needed to take it upon myself to want to quit, was when my wife texted me during work one day that I should go get my libido checked out, because it's not normal that a 24 year old isn't feeling raging desire to have sex.

From that point forward, I stopped jerking off to porn, deleted all my folders/collections, put filters on my tik tok and Instagram for you pages, deleted any second accounts to hide that shit, and started bettering myself. The thing is, I didn't find this toooo tooo hard. It took just a bit of strong-willed discipline. In retrospect I believe I had a habit more than an addiction.