>>81944422
Those things are amplifiers, not causes, for attraction. Candles and massages heighten the sexual tension - which is great for when you are physically attracted to someone. Much like gooning, the process of delaying the gratification of sex is key to making her orgasm. However, in our case, there is no attraction to begin with. There are some hints in the text which could point to it being a mindset issue, such as the fact that he's clearly not the leader of the relationship, which may be the cause for the lack of attraction. Or he's ugly and she married him anyway. Or both.