>>33323998
>You cannot live in a relationship where this ultimatum is used more than incidentally
From what OP said here >>33319857 it's not an ultimatum. I've said to my partner things like "I can't be with someone who doesn't care for me when I'm sick", or "When I'm upset sometimes I just want to run away".

An unreasonable ultimatum is something like "If you don't take me out to dinner tonight, I'm breaking up with you!".