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Honest answer is: it depends, but some things are harder to compromise on than others. Shared worldview, kindness, and joy are huge. Many people live without even that. But a few missing pieces (especially the ones you mentioned) can eat away at love over time if they’re not addressed:

>lack of respect (on your side)
If you don't truly respect her (her judgment, her inner strength, her way of handling life, etc.) it will show. Even if you're kind, even if you're loyal. That internal cringe or quiet frustration turns into distance. It’s hard to love someone you feel above.

>lack of desire
I'll repeat myself again: attraction isn’t everything, but it's not nothing. If you never feel pulled to her physically, or you’re dragging yourself through intimacy, that will take a toll. On BOTH of you. Resentment or guilt replaces connection. That said, sometimes attraction grows when admiration and emotional safety deepen (but not always).

>uneven maturity
Being the "adult" all the time is really fucking draining. Long-term, that imbalance can feel like parenting your partner, not loving them. Compassion is good, but caretaking without reciprocity builds quiet resentment. You’ll feel alone even while together.

Relationships involve give and take. No one gets 100%. But certain imbalances, especially in respect, desire, and shared responsibility, aren’t just quirks: they're fault lines. If those missing pieces stay missing, it’s usually not sustainable. If there’s room for growth, conversation, and shared effort to bridge the gaps, it might be. Ask yourself: “Can I accept her as she is if nothing ever changes?” That answer matters more than any checklist.