my boyfriend is great, he's very kind and he is also politically similar and has a nice family, and I met him at the church we both attend at university. My religion is so important to me and I thought he was the same but I accidentally found out he has slept with many women in the past and used to do night club hook ups and other stuff. Since I found out a few weeks ago I have had so much sadness and insecurity. I have become utterly obsessed with who these women were and what they look like. I feel very deceived. I slept with him because he promised he would marry me but this is before I knew about all those women. I hate how I look and I constantly compare myself to his ex girlfriend who is more attractive than I am. I hate that he didn't tell me before, and that he would use me. I love him but he refuses to say it back. I really resent him for his sexual activities in the past and it has made me lose most of my respect for him and I no longer see him as a virtuous potential father to my kids and future husband. he says he uses this website often so I thought I would ask you people. thank you for reading.