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>nowhere close to what that woman described in the first part of the article
DESU I didn't mean to reference the stalker, or the author's situation, only the idea of selective agency and how it applies to submissives.

>Doing something in the name of someone else isn't quite the same as what the article is going for
I think it's an example of selective agency she didn't bring up. You would think that taking care of myself for my own well being should be enough, but "having an eating disorder sucks" is not nearly as strong a motivator as the opportunity to please mistress. Couldn't tell you why agency is selective in that way.

The main point that I was trying to make though is that the change from putting my agency into a completely new set of previously neglected things (cooking, cleaning, therapy, etc) was a huge one. These were things that I previously found it difficult to focus on, or I was taking the wrong approach to because I wasn't "Actually Trying".

>mandatory multi-hour self reflection time every night
I imagine that would change things. I fall asleep instantly and I don't ordinarily spend a lot of time reflecting like that.

>for myself I find that slavery fulfills a similar hole in my soul
Mistress is very nurturing. I think that's a hard requirement. She had to get a bunch of things in Her life in order before She took me in. Sort of like what people do before they have a baby.

It ends up being a huge time investment. Describing how you want something done often takes longer than doing it yourself. During the first month I don't think I actually saved Her much time, if any. But as I got better and She was able to slowly add more responsibilities that improved.

>all the pain from a relationship like that being over
We still talk every day. Planning on doing it again sometime. We live apart and have separate lives in our respective cities. I care a lot about programming and can't give it up. But I know that I could be Hers. That means a lot