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Not really, though the expectation placed on you depends a ton on the kind of workplace. Also I'm from a quite socially reserved country. If it's a fancy place you're supposed to be fancy and very polite and if it's a dive bar you are kind of stereotypically expected to be a cynical, grumpy motherfucker (half of my coworkers) so the "bar" is nowhere near as high as you might think.

Privately I am not very a outgoing at all to be honest but I of view shooting the shit with customers as entirely distinct from actual socialization if that makes any sense. It really doesn't drain my batteries at all for some reason. As long as they aren't particularly annoying (~30-40% of the time on a good day) I quite enjoy talking nonsense with them whenever I have the time.

I do think it's a bit more demanding for younger women though and I don't just mean the sadly "usual" sexual harassment stuff. (Worth noting ig that in hospitality sexual harassment by customers is pretty common towards younger guys too since it's less frowned upon for a cougar to get handsy) A fair proportion of people just tend to be a bit more difficult with them on average and don't always take their word the first time even if they'd take mine. But this is really just for women in their 20s, early 30s, after that customers respect them the same as anyone else I think.

It's not as bad at all as I made it sound like and I do like it even if I could not see myself doing this for a career.