My friend is really into the server Scryde which is the most well put together one i've seen and also never does wipes which is nice. However, its still rather grindy even by Gracia private server standarts and while it does have a low rate variant i havent focused on that either. Every so often im tempted to join him for realsies but eventually it turns into a 2nd job and thats when it stops being fun for me, i just wanna play when i feel like it and not be forced to do stuff because if i dont i get left behind/kicked out of clans. Also sucks how low rate servers are nigh possible for solo players.