>>39932870
Glad it did! Khyle (the artist) is a fucking treasure.
>>39928431
What I mean is: the thought exercise was meant to notify you that you are holding yourself up to a standard you would nobody else. More often than not we like to internally think of this as being lenient with others, but in practice it's often actually a sign of us being too harsh with ourselves. Take a step back and try to play with that thought. Critically engage with why you are in that regard, try to name the emotions and ideas that lead you to being harsh on yourself there.
>>39931963
Hm, without wanting to come off as mean or anything but have you ever been diagnosed with it? We do have some basic tism resources but I am not super well versed on the subject. One thing I can recommend however is the following: One pattern I personally use a lot is to take time and ask for feedback on occasion, asking how people around me feel.
>I have no idea what I'm doing wrong until months later at best because even when I ask nobody bothers to explain it, so these grudges develop.
First off, there is a breaking point where people's inability to voice their grievances stops being your problem. If you ask directly ask them, and they keep playing coy only to explode at you later, then what are you supposed to do? It is not your obligation to develop mind reading skills.
That said, what is it people are bothered by that they only speak up about so, so late?
>Somehow, every single time, I'm in the wrong and have hurt someone.
Being wrong and hurting people happens, in a healthy relationship, these things can be subsequently mended. Think of it as stepping on toes. If you do, then the other person needs to somehow communicate their discomfort if you don't notice it first, then you move your foot and work from there.
>extreme passive aggressiveness
on their end or on yours?
>>39934409
Difficult, could it be the person is generally just not very attentive?