Why do you think children of narcissistic, manipulative, gaslighting, evil parents tend to make excuses for them and say "they're not that bad" or even outright say "my parents were good I was just a selfish child"

when you're a child your parents are god and the survival techniques and coping mechanisms you learn from that essentially trap you in systems and cycles of narcissistic abuse your entire life and very few people break free of it. You see ghe fucking comments in videos on these basic psych 101 subjects saying "I'm 69 years old and I finally divorced my narcissistic husband who cheated on me and beat me daily," abuse cycles are powerful.

Anyone who's not weaponizing religion for power and control over others is likely a victim of someone else doing it to them.