>>81856115
>i want a genuine connection with someone. not whatever this shit is
I'm the same way. But like male, I guess. Except people can immediately tell so I don't even get in that situation, but either way.
It's bleak. I've already observed enough to be able to tell how other men are and what they actually are looking for. Even the ones that mean well are going to fuck it all up just from not having any experience at all.
I think love and romance is dead. We don't think it is because we see Gen X, Millenials, and boomers still experiencing it. Instead of looking at the current state of Gen Z and Alpha, and the amount of horrible fetishistic normgroid bullshit that goes on. It's a joke. And for your case, even more so, because the kind of person that goes for fat girls is 100% going to do it for a fetish. Not love or connection. And guess how that ends. It doesn't end in a long lasting relationship, that's for sure.

Don't let people use you. Allow yourself to be skeptical. That's all I got to say.