>>40227751
Girl I'm so sorry and I know EXACTLY the feeling :(

Color Wow Supernatural Spray Dream Coat is my rec. Saturate your hair in the dream coat spray, section, and blow dry with a focus nozzle and a brush.

How to use:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=io3NUfk8tQQ
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWPnv4yOT6k

My one piece of advice to my past self is do NOT listen to the curly girl honscience. Cis women give you terrible advice about curls because THEY still look like women even when their hair is unruly and gigantic, and THEY don’t have to worry about going around with a giant male forehead with square corners and isolated dr seuss looking gleaming bouncy fiesta coils springing up here and there.

You’re allowed to trust your OWN feelings about beauty. If you walk out of the curly bar telling yourself you’ll “get used to” it and then you go home and cry and think about killing yourself, then maybe YOU’RE RIGHT and THEY’RE WRONG. The hon enforcement crowd wants you to look like weird al because they mean well and that’s the best they can imagine for you, but if your gut says it’s wrong, maybe it knows you can actually look good.

The Lab Muffin Beauty Science channel has some quality stuff
>Busting hair care myths! Build-up, silicones and more AD:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ri_SqZVthaU
>Stop drying your hair wrong: the science
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Oo1syciUQ4

Also good
>Why you will never get ‘That Hair’. (I tried for 10 years, brutally honest)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OZV5_2jzr-I