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simple example of healthy conversation
>"i smoked up a brisket yesterday"
>hell yeah, what's your process?
>" *explains* "
>nice
>"do you have a smoker? i highly recommend" <---- no one remembers how to ask questions back
>i do! i don't use it very much though.
>"why not! there's so much you can do" <---- no one remembers how to help/advise other people
>hmm, what do you recommend?
>"i started smoking whiskey! it adds so much flavor" <---- no one remembers how to interweave anecdotes naturally
>oh that's sick, is it complicated?
>"no you just put the whiskey in there and cold smoke! it's easy to smoke anything, you seem like you're overthinking it" <---- no one remembers how to "check" others into healthier behavior
>yeah maybe i am. the smoker's been covered since i moved.
>"how about i come over and help you out with it? let's smoke some whiskey tonight" <---- no one remembers how to pivot to closer relationships with friends
>i'm free tonight! why the hell not. sounds fun.
>"cool, i'll bring my wife so she can DD me and she can meet your wife" <---- no one remembers how to maximize opportunities and involve others
>sounds good
>"hell yeah. well i'll see you tonight man, i gotta get back to it" <---- no one remembers how to end a conversation gracefully
>alright cya man

simple example of modern conversation
>"i smoked up a brisket yesterday"
>hell yeah, what's your process?
>" *explains* "
>nice
>"..."
>*asks them another question*
>" *explains* "
>cool
>"..."
>*repeat until i give up and shoo them away*
>" *walks away without saying anything* "

i lead every conversation. it's so bad. i feel like i'm giving verbal CPR to everyone i talk to.