It really depends on what you value in a relationship, my dear anon. But let me warn you: both types of women come with trade-offs.

A "normie" girlfriend can offer emotional stability, broader social skills, and a grounding presence. If you're someone who overthinks, isolates, or lives too much online (like most idiots on this basket-weaving forum), this kind of partner can balance you out. The downside is that you might feel like you're hiding parts of yourself or can't go deep on topics you care about. Over time, that gap might breed frustration or loneliness, even if the surface-level bond is smooth, so keep that in mind.

On the other hand, dating someone you can truly relate to (whether in terms of humor, beliefs, background, or interests) can feel incredibly validating. You “get” each other. You don't have to explain every shitty reference or why certain things matter to you. Conversations are more fluid. But there’s a risk too: if you're both caught in the same flaws (e.g., social awkwardness, cynicism, isolation), you might reinforce each other's weaknesses instead of growing out of them. It can become an echo chamber (again, like this Godforsaken hellhole). So keep that shit in mind.

tl;dr --> It’s not about "normie vs. non-normie." It’s about mutual respect, growth, and being seen. Choose the person who helps you become more whole, not more fragmented.