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6/11/2025, 2:48:35 PM
>>39979630
>How do I stop them from instantly hating me?
You've gotta have faith that people will broadly fall into two categories: those where you think that they hate you cause you are so used to the idea (but they don't actually), and those too volatile to bother with. For now I can only promise you these people exist.
>How do I stop them from feeling comfortable doing the same type of thing?
In general, sad as it is, there is very little we can do to make them change. By my analogy with stepping on feet earlier, you can make them aware, but if they see no reason to take action it is them that failed you, not the other way around.
>But where do I find them?
That's the big question, and I feel we should focus our back and forth on "what places do I have available?" and "how do I select people?". It would actually be nice to find a couple people for you, people that are a fresh start, and you first of all try things on your own. Then, should things go awry, you could then give me a play by play of the interaction (because I have an easier time spotting a concrete communication issues). With that I could give you suggestions for what about this was/is in your power to mend.
>>39980747
>I want to be dependable and highly capable
You wish to be relied upon, I think what you are craving on that front is way more social in nature than anything else. Which is wonderful! There is a TON of meaning we derive from our interactions with other people. But at the same, is it really a career goal? Or perhaps a relationship goal in the dress of a career aspiration?
>it's technical and actually interesting (to other people)
This is a very interesting point. Suppose ANY subject you touch would lead to you being THE go-to address for people, a real pillar of the community. If that was a given, what are the subjects that interest you? Especially if, no matter the subject, you will be around people endlessly fascinated by it?
>Appreciate you reading my rambling tho <3
Always!
>How do I stop them from instantly hating me?
You've gotta have faith that people will broadly fall into two categories: those where you think that they hate you cause you are so used to the idea (but they don't actually), and those too volatile to bother with. For now I can only promise you these people exist.
>How do I stop them from feeling comfortable doing the same type of thing?
In general, sad as it is, there is very little we can do to make them change. By my analogy with stepping on feet earlier, you can make them aware, but if they see no reason to take action it is them that failed you, not the other way around.
>But where do I find them?
That's the big question, and I feel we should focus our back and forth on "what places do I have available?" and "how do I select people?". It would actually be nice to find a couple people for you, people that are a fresh start, and you first of all try things on your own. Then, should things go awry, you could then give me a play by play of the interaction (because I have an easier time spotting a concrete communication issues). With that I could give you suggestions for what about this was/is in your power to mend.
>>39980747
>I want to be dependable and highly capable
You wish to be relied upon, I think what you are craving on that front is way more social in nature than anything else. Which is wonderful! There is a TON of meaning we derive from our interactions with other people. But at the same, is it really a career goal? Or perhaps a relationship goal in the dress of a career aspiration?
>it's technical and actually interesting (to other people)
This is a very interesting point. Suppose ANY subject you touch would lead to you being THE go-to address for people, a real pillar of the community. If that was a given, what are the subjects that interest you? Especially if, no matter the subject, you will be around people endlessly fascinated by it?
>Appreciate you reading my rambling tho <3
Always!
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