>>508148042
>i was a shell of a man for about 5 years after
It truly takes years to get over. Men don't have a mental mechanism to detach from a pair bonding like women do.

A man's bond to his woman is similar to a woman's bond with her children. There's no mechanism to unlink the bond.

Women have the ability to unlink a mate bond because they have to be able to re bond with a new mate for survival.