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6/14/2025, 7:10:53 PM
>>40021443
>Money is all that matters at the end of the day.
In the end we can't self improve well if we starve or are homeless. It's why I tend to use Maslov's Pyramid as an analogy a lot, "can't X when you're Y", with the bottom of the pyramid boiling down to Y=dead. I am glad your siblings are people that make this whole mess meaningful to you.
>I genuinely despise when our family decides to get together for vacations or holidays
I understand, as you said, there is a lot of powerlessness and frustration in this. Free drama for no goddamn reason a lot of the time.
>I must be my fault a little for not being financially independent yet...or something
>my brain can't keep up with this stuff any more.
It is normal to be overwhelmed in a situation like this. Let the thought that it is circumstances that are fucked up soothe you a little. It's not your fault even if it feels like it. Especially since it does. I can explain why this is a good pov when you have the headspace for it in a few months from now. For now, I offer the thought like a comfortable blanket.
Make something along the lines of this a mantra: "Successes are proof of my abilities, setbacks are pure circumstance." Yes it sounds antithetical to self improvement but in a situation like yours it is medicine for the spirit.
>>40024798
I will listen as many times as you need us. I will always bear witness, frien.
>>40024810
Promise.
>>40026175
Thanks again, shinjinon. I wish I could take you out for a coffee sometime, you've been such a cinnamon roll in all this.
>>40027451
>Is 21 too late to start exploring the feminine side of myself?
In most jurisdictions your parents had at least some control over your life until you are 18. That means you are at most 3 years old in adult years. You have your entire life ahead!
>Money is all that matters at the end of the day.
In the end we can't self improve well if we starve or are homeless. It's why I tend to use Maslov's Pyramid as an analogy a lot, "can't X when you're Y", with the bottom of the pyramid boiling down to Y=dead. I am glad your siblings are people that make this whole mess meaningful to you.
>I genuinely despise when our family decides to get together for vacations or holidays
I understand, as you said, there is a lot of powerlessness and frustration in this. Free drama for no goddamn reason a lot of the time.
>I must be my fault a little for not being financially independent yet...or something
>my brain can't keep up with this stuff any more.
It is normal to be overwhelmed in a situation like this. Let the thought that it is circumstances that are fucked up soothe you a little. It's not your fault even if it feels like it. Especially since it does. I can explain why this is a good pov when you have the headspace for it in a few months from now. For now, I offer the thought like a comfortable blanket.
Make something along the lines of this a mantra: "Successes are proof of my abilities, setbacks are pure circumstance." Yes it sounds antithetical to self improvement but in a situation like yours it is medicine for the spirit.
>>40024798
I will listen as many times as you need us. I will always bear witness, frien.
>>40024810
Promise.
>>40026175
Thanks again, shinjinon. I wish I could take you out for a coffee sometime, you've been such a cinnamon roll in all this.
>>40027451
>Is 21 too late to start exploring the feminine side of myself?
In most jurisdictions your parents had at least some control over your life until you are 18. That means you are at most 3 years old in adult years. You have your entire life ahead!
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