I'm part of a church group. I'm not great (like I'm posting on 4chan and stuff so you know I come here occasionally) but I try to be good. My group has always been just women, not by like any kind of rule it's just we didn't have any men joining since they didn't see any other guys here.

A guy joined a couple of weeks ago, and our dynamic is changing and it feels weird. He's definitely in charge of the group now, and I feel weird about it. Our group leader has always been Donna, and she's just letting this guy make all the decisions and I think it's because he's from a wealthy family and everybody's into him.

I haven't been rude, but I've made a point to minimize my time talking to the guy. I try to be elsewhere whenever he's present and just hear what I need to through other people in the group.

I guess he noticed, or something, because lately he's been making a point of finding me and it seems like he's trying to hang around me and get me to like him like everyone else does.

Something I can't really define feels off about this guy, like in the "something is definitely wrong but I don't know what" kind of way. It feels mean to say, but its like he only pretends to care or be bothered about anything. He's one of those dudebro types and I get the feeling he only joined BECAUSE we're all women and he's trying to use church like a dating app and everyone else is just going along with it happily and it's really making me upset but I don't feel like I have any options here to fix the problem.

I know I can't exactly kick out or ask to kick out someone from the church group. Would it be a sort of nail in the coffin for my involvement if I ask him not to try to hover around me so much? He does legitimately make me feel a little uncomfortable and something about him feels really sketchy enough that I don't imagine he's gonna like hurt me but I feel like he's going to do something bad.