I'm part of a church group. I'm not great (like I'm posting on 4chan and stuff so you know I come here occasionally) but I try to be good. My group has always been just women, not by like any kind of rule it's just we didn't have any men joining since they didn't see any other guys here.

A guy joined a couple of weeks ago, and our dynamic is changing and it feels weird. He's definitely in charge of the group now, and I feel weird about it. Our group leader has always been Donna, and she's just letting this guy make all the decisions and I think it's because he's from a wealthy family and everybody's into him.

I haven't been rude, but I've made a point to minimize my time talking to the guy. I try to be elsewhere whenever he's present and just hear what I need to through other people in the group.

I guess he noticed, or something, because lately he's been making a point of finding me and it seems like he's trying to hang around me and get me to like him like everyone else does.

Something I can't really define feels off about this guy, like in the "something is definitely wrong but I don't know what" kind of way. It feels mean to say, but its like he only pretends to care or be bothered about anything. He's one of those dudebro types and I get the feeling he only joined BECAUSE we're all women and he's trying to use church like a dating app and everyone else is just going along with it happily and it's really making me upset but I don't feel like I have any options here to fix the problem.

I know I can't exactly kick out or ask to kick out someone from the church group. Would it be a sort of nail in the coffin for my involvement if I ask him not to try to hover around me so much? He does legitimately make me feel a little uncomfortable and something about him feels really sketchy enough that I don't imagine he's gonna like hurt me but I feel like he's going to do something bad.

tl:dr OP got cucked by chad

>>33335566
You think OP is a lesbian who has infiltrated a Church Group in order to sleep with them?

>No no... OP is a man

Explain this
>My group has always been just women

>>33335549 (OP)
TLDR is OP feels she's the main character in her hollywood movie and as such she feels the need to gatekeep the new members of her club, some dude joined whom she's not attracted to, so by definition he is now the "bad guy" of the movie for no apparent reason, so she hates him and I'm not sure why this is posted to a Chinese cartoon imageboard.
OP try not to end up like that hot Canadian chick from /r9k/ who knifed somebody IRL for apparently no reason. Don't do anything stupid. "FMK" image posts are supposed to be light hearted entertainment not carried out IRL. Just politely have nothing to do with the guy if you don't like him. There is no hollywood film director and nobody is going to mind, or care, if you do that. You don't have to be besties with everyone you don't destroy.

idk. i'd trust your instincts if you feel like there's something off or insincere about they guy. but there's not really much you can do in situations like this. avoid if possible :/

if he's really got bad or sleazy intentions it will probably only be so long until they become apparent. maybe try and feel out what the other ladies are thinking. best case scenario, he'll surprise you

>>33335549 (OP)
Not a lot that I think you could do here besides bringing it up with the other women or just leaving the group. Men here sometimes complain about the same thing happening if a woman joins their group.

>>33335549 (OP)
Huh? I go to church to learn about God. If I don't go I talk to my uncle or watch a sermon online? It's not to delude myself into being invincible but to know how to properly through God be a more moral and upright individual. As in how can I be more righteous as a human being given how it is impossible for me, but possible for God.

>>33335549 (OP)
It’s possible that Donna prefers to not be the leader and she was only doing that because no one else wanted to do it. Also, a guy in a female religious group is going to be novelty in any case.

>>33335764
I just feel like it's weird how he always has some excuse to spend all his time around me when I've been making a point of avoiding him. Everyone else is fawning over him but he can't leave me alone? Why does he need everyone to like him? Why's it such a big deal if I want to keep space to myself? It feels like everyone's been ditching me when we normally all walk home together and he's the only one left and I'm really annoyed.
>>33335979
He keeps showing me his expensive car like he thinks it'll impress me into not thinking he's a jerk but he's still just so weird all the time I can't see him as anything but creepy.
>>33336715
It's just everybody started deferring to him when he showed up and they don't even hide how they're into him and it feels gross. He talks about how he's into trad life stuff and everyone just eats it up even though doing the trad life would be miserable

>>33337743
Have you considered the less sinister possibility that he is not trying to manipulate everyone, and that instead he's just trying to win you over? For romantic reasons? To make you his tradwife?

>>33338046
I refuse to be a tradwife and it makes me really mad if this guy is trying to use church like a dating app.

>>33335549 (OP)
You are making a ton of assumptions about a person you are working to not know.
Either talk to the guy or not, but stop pretending that your imagination is his actual real self.

>>33337743
>everyone just eats it up even though doing the trad life would be miserable
A LARP too far, OP.
Sorry, but any real woman in a real church group would never say that.
Busted by your own ignorance.
OP is a LARPing dude, everyone.
Thread's over

>>33340009
80% of the guys here recommend using a church like a dating app so you might have come to the wrong place.

But it sounds like he wants to be king of a church harem and you're the hold out. It's an ego thing. Showing you his car is an ego thing. Being surrounded by women is an ego thing. You are skeazed out by him because he is using your group to stroke his pride.

>>33340009
>goes to church all the time
>In the church group, obviously for Young Singles
>"I refuse to be a tradwife"
lol
lmao, even
Are you a vegan that eats meat, too?

>>33337743
>it's weird how he always has some excuse to spend all his time around me when I've been making a point of avoiding him
"I get along with everyone except Anonette, I don't know why she is so hard to get along with. I know, I'll try to hang out with her to make friends, what could possibly go wrong?"

>>33340057
Maybe it's specifically a synagogue, not "a church in general"?

>>33340067
>recommend using a church like a dating app
Just because you "can" find a wife at church doesn't mean literally every guy will find every girl at church is magically tradwife material.
Not unlikely at all that a guy would meet perhaps "one" girl at church that nobody could possibly get along with.
If every other girl likes him, that's pretty good odds! Better than he'd get on any app or at any bar.

>>33340067
That's exactly what it feels like. I just don't get what he wants to be like that for when we just try to meetup and discuss stuff every week.

>>33340377
OP writes
>I'm part of a church group.
not a Schul or temple