I’m 24, he’s 28. Married 2 years. He’s an airline pilot. We met when I worked at the airport — he was charming, confident, knew exactly what to say. I thought I was lucky.

He’s different at home. Cold. Controlling. Everything has to be scheduled, efficient, “by the book.” He times our arguments, tells me I’m being “emotional and unpredictable,” says I “need to be more stable if this is going to work.”

Last week he locked the bedroom door from the inside when I tried to leave after a fight. Said I was “declaring an emergency” and needed to “follow proper procedures.” Then he made me sit at the kitchen table in silence while he read out some kind of checklist he wrote. It felt like I wasn’t a person — just a problem to troubleshoot.

I know how this sounds. He’s never hit me, but it still feels… violent. Psychological. He gets in my head. Makes me question my memory, my tone, my reactions. When I cry, he says I’m “losing altitude.” When I ask for help, he says “Handle it. You’re the PIC of your own life.”

I used to think he was intense because of his job. Now I think the job lets him hide how controlling he really is.

I don’t know if this is abuse, or if I’m weak, or both. I just know I feel smaller every month. Like I’m disappearing. I don’t recognize myself.

My husband didn’t eat the sandwich I made him and it pisses me off. He doesn’t appreciate jack shit that I do here

I just got my first period and my boobs feel super hot, is it normal

My husband woke up and started doing pushups. He’s still going I think he’s done like 400 so far. He’s crying and yelling and angry and he said he won’t stop. His entire body is dripping, he’s shaking like crazy. What’s going on? Why did he wake up like this? What kind of mental episode is this?