One of my coworkers that’s pretty attractive has shown interest in me the last few months. She playfully told me “You wouldn’t want to drink with me because I’d probably flirt with you.” And other things that could be dismissed as playful but still suggest something more. Recently I’ve hung out with her at her place and she touched my arm and opened up about a lot about her life situation. I’m torn although on if this is because she’s lonely and needs a friend or if she genuinely is attracted to me. I haven’t made any move to her whatsoever besides texting her back and coming over when she invites me and this is easily the most attractive girl that’s made effort to ask what I’m doing and make plans with me ever.

I’m apprehensive because she hasn’t graduated high school and seems pretty immature despite being 2-3 years older than me (I’m 21).

I’ve talked to my brother about it and he says that it’s an awful idea and that it’s definitely not anything I should get involved with especially considering how she seems to lack agency. I feel like he might view me as immature if I end up messing around with someone like her.

My friends all are basically saying that I have it in the bag and that I should just fuck her and lose my virginity but honestly I don’t know, I do think she’s attractive but I definitely wouldn’t want anything long term with her and I feel like if she’s interested she definitely would see that with me, also I feel like I might struggle with eventually ending things with her if we do get into a relationship which is also making me not want to pursue her at all.

Should I listen to my friends and just have lose my virginity? Every time I hang out with them the topic inevitably comes up and they keep asking me why I haven’t done it yet.