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Continuing on the old age things, one interesting thing for me is just how dissonant the mommy thing is in contrast to actual 40 year olds. When youngsters talk about mommies, they don't necessarily talk about older chicks, they just mean the mommying attitude which is funnily enough not even present among older chicks. I love them myself, and many of them, who are also actual moms, are much livelier, sometimes even tomboyish compared to whatever the perception of "mommy-girl-friend" is.
I'm sorta inclined to believe that whatever the mommy gf/hagmaxxing trend represents, it is also as out of this world as goth gfs are: there's an introduction of instruments of surrender which were fairly normal and articulated for the older generation, but not really present in the current tendency. Like, the older people know that the world is turbulent and that one of the best feelings out there is to love someone so much you can comfortably confide in them and always have a safe haven, but for the newer gens the idea of confiding in is a threat in itself: you're not opening to others, you're being found out. Ultimately, however, surrendering is a necessity in one way or practice or another.
So there may be a little error in judgement: because you "know" that older people are more versed in love, you don't try to look for these qualities separately from the people: they're older, so they must be more mature. It may be easier (if you're on the same wavelength, the barriers are actually flimsier) and not necessarily that bad (love is love, after all), but the issue is that of course these things don't necessarily match. You may find a 45 year old who hasn't mentally grown past 18, and it also isn't necessarily bad and you may learn something from it, but you're still placing limits on yourself. "mommy gf" follows the same thing: since the last thing you've felt haven-ly in is your mother, you should continue where you've left with another person who has the same things in her. Again, not necessarily bad, but you have to understand what the package is to understand what the toll paid for it is.
Both "hags" and "moms" are out of this world in a way that they contrast themselves to the Current in presenting vulnerability as a pretty nice thing to have at times, and people are going crazy from being in constant defense mode. However, we're still in the process of configuring what "this world" is, so even though we may see good solutions, they may in fact be solving wrong problems. Also, the world-alien chick may complete you (even if it may be a very lopsided way) and that's great, but the process of completing the other side may be arduous, fruitless and doomed to fail due to how love is out there. Love is not a positive agent: keep that in mind.
Continuing on the old age things, one interesting thing for me is just how dissonant the mommy thing is in contrast to actual 40 year olds. When youngsters talk about mommies, they don't necessarily talk about older chicks, they just mean the mommying attitude which is funnily enough not even present among older chicks. I love them myself, and many of them, who are also actual moms, are much livelier, sometimes even tomboyish compared to whatever the perception of "mommy-girl-friend" is.
I'm sorta inclined to believe that whatever the mommy gf/hagmaxxing trend represents, it is also as out of this world as goth gfs are: there's an introduction of instruments of surrender which were fairly normal and articulated for the older generation, but not really present in the current tendency. Like, the older people know that the world is turbulent and that one of the best feelings out there is to love someone so much you can comfortably confide in them and always have a safe haven, but for the newer gens the idea of confiding in is a threat in itself: you're not opening to others, you're being found out. Ultimately, however, surrendering is a necessity in one way or practice or another.
So there may be a little error in judgement: because you "know" that older people are more versed in love, you don't try to look for these qualities separately from the people: they're older, so they must be more mature. It may be easier (if you're on the same wavelength, the barriers are actually flimsier) and not necessarily that bad (love is love, after all), but the issue is that of course these things don't necessarily match. You may find a 45 year old who hasn't mentally grown past 18, and it also isn't necessarily bad and you may learn something from it, but you're still placing limits on yourself. "mommy gf" follows the same thing: since the last thing you've felt haven-ly in is your mother, you should continue where you've left with another person who has the same things in her. Again, not necessarily bad, but you have to understand what the package is to understand what the toll paid for it is.
Both "hags" and "moms" are out of this world in a way that they contrast themselves to the Current in presenting vulnerability as a pretty nice thing to have at times, and people are going crazy from being in constant defense mode. However, we're still in the process of configuring what "this world" is, so even though we may see good solutions, they may in fact be solving wrong problems. Also, the world-alien chick may complete you (even if it may be a very lopsided way) and that's great, but the process of completing the other side may be arduous, fruitless and doomed to fail due to how love is out there. Love is not a positive agent: keep that in mind.
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