>>81845050
You misunderstand me, but I didn't explicitly mention it.
I was, and probably still am a consummate pre ejaculator (at least to my expectations).
It's a frequent consequence of being circumcised. Either there is over desensitization of the penis in sex or (my case) a hypersensitivity of the scar-line. Hypersensitivity isn't really the right word, though. Between my learning of the subject and personal experience it's probably more of a deep trauma memory that turns that ring-remnant of the removed male g-spot into an itch that I'm desperate to have comforted/pleasured. It can become like a trigger.

I had talked to friends, probably with the similar issue, that would say they jerked off before visiting their girlfriends. This might factor in to the routines of developed foreplay because a lot of the time I either wouldn't last long inside her or already came from oral and would proceed to massage and fellate her for a solid half hour until erect again and, this time ready to put in tour of pounding. Did the whole thing become forced... was this a case of mismatched expectations? Should I have just made our sex about tearing her clothes off, blasting away inside her within a couple minutes and crying out triumphantly, "AWHH FUCK UR SO HOT"

I think I was pretty easy to please and in general men seem easy to sexually please. Do stuff to their cocks, the more eager and intimate the better. For my failed relationship I developed a complex about whether I was good enough then got thrown for a loop when later sex partners had little problem orgasming without a whole lot more thrusting (some years lessened the trigger).

What should you be getting from all this?
1) healthy + chemistry and getting oral shouldn't be hard
2) getting on the same page can require being able to talk through some obstacles.