No one who really likes these games plays them for the difficulty. They're all quite simple ARPGs mechanics wise.
People like them because of the dire, solemn tone. It's the end of the world and you're all fucked but you persevere anyway because fuck it. All the Souls games do that quintessential Western high fantasy with dragons and swords and shit better than all others. That's why people like them.
The YOURE GONNA FUCKING DIE A MILLION TIMES THIS GAME IS SO EPIC HARDCORE STYLEZ FOR ULTRAAAAA GAMEEERRRSSS shit is just marketing. Makes people who are shit at games feel like they're part of the "cool crowd."
They're all fags and so are you, OP.

Do stop fucking watching them, you slobbering mongolood half wit cunt.
Start playing vidya instead of watching some literal who on the internet play them

im 40 and all i play is nintendo games. my ps5 is in its box under my bed until i can be bothered to sell it.
enjoy playing games made my people who think disabled genderflux racially ambiguous women with green hair are history's greatest heroes on ps5 and your season pass daily login Skinner box always online fps team based fps on pc.
ill be playing games that are actually fun. feel free to suck and choke on my dick