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OP again but this person is killing it

This starts to get into an ethical territory, where a paternal role of "I know what's best" meets a malleable person (who may not or may be engaging in behaviors that are counterproductive/maladjusted). I think this is where women tend to get leery of men proposing this setup, as how can they trust you if they can't even trust themselves to do the right thing depending on the circumstances? Not even that, if you even proposed to help them work on their issues, there's no guarantee that this person would be playing along for some positive exchange (ie. companionship, shelter) and looking for the next opportunity - which I believe is characteristic of BPD.

Most of the ex-girlfriends I've had where I've initiated the breakups typically had to do with their inability to articulate psychological needs. It's hard enough being a man in a relationship, but being a mindreader is really difficult. One girl had cut her thighs, but I soon found out her domineering mother was the source of the issue. The mother dragged her to therapy as a method of control, staged a failed intervention, and even accused her her father of molesting her (in an attempt to find the "source" of her "bad" behavior). All of that which pointed to the mother herself was acting out some intragenerational schema to perpetuate misery.

Armed with the schema list (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_maladaptive_schemas), it can be easy to manipulate people unethically like a sociopath.
>just my two bits