>>41355518
I totally understand how discouraging it can be to think, “What if I do everything and it’s still not enough?”, but for me, just starting that journey made me feel better and that gave me the boost I needed to keep going and do more. I’m not “there yet” and I’m still glad I started.

Taking care of yourself feels better than not, but choosing to take care of yourself can be its own process. Try something small, give yourself the chance to feel it help. Don’t get distracted by all or nothing thinking.

>>41103201
If ever there was a post I felt I needed to respond to, it’s this one.

You told us two things: That your motivation to take better care of yourself is to get the kind of partner and sex you crave, and that you feel bad about that.

You were told that’s not such a terrible motivation and in >>41103467 you said you still feel kind of bad about it.

I’ve had very similar experiences and feelings. The thing that finally motivated me to start taking better care of myself was remembering how cool I thought Panty from Panty & Stocking was when I first started questioning my gender.

I think going back to that inspiration and letting it guide me again was a good thing. But I think questioning it was good for me too.

What if you feel bad about self-improving to pull the kind of relationship you want, the sex you want, because you know you’re selling yourself short? That you can be more than a fantastic lay and top-shelf arm candy?

You can have sex and get into a good relationship and that doesn’t have to be all you want. There’s definitely a system that wants you to pigeonhole yourself like that, but maybe they’re wrong for making you feel that way. Maybe you feel bad because you know that, but you’re scared to admit it because that means the system that’s got control of most of the board is rotten. That’s scary to think about, but you’ve got all the time you need to chew on it.

Just my two cents. I hope somebody finds this post helpful.