That-s a really thoughtful and layered piece of dialogue - it sounds like someone expressing both emotional hurt and moral reasoning about boundaries and respect. Let-s unpack it step by step:
- Part 1: The emotional grievance
"For me it-s cause there was never an 'apology' - merely pretending nothing happened is just unsettling and will continue the contempt, especially as the disrespect is simply being continued."
This part is about unresolved conflict.
The speaker feels that someone wronged them but never acknowledged or apologized for it.
Instead, the other person pretended nothing happened, which feels invalidating - like gaslighting or denial.
That makes the speaker lose respect (contempt) and feel that the disrespect is ongoing, because silence or avoidance is itself a form of disrespect.
So emotionally, it-s about the need for recognition and accountability.
-- Part 2: The rational/moral reflection
"You are working with people who believe you owe them and maybe you do. The skill you lack is partitioning your time after you owe someone - when you repay them, your business with them is done, and there is no further expectation. If they assign expectations to you, it is conflict not value, and it is evil of you to pretend their conflict is valuable."
This moves from emotion to ethics and boundaries.
It-s advice to separate debt from obligation - to know when what you -owe- someone has been fulfilled.
After you-ve repaid (in work, favors, loyalty, etc.), they no longer have legitimate claim over you.
If they keep expecting more, that-s manipulation or exploitation (-conflict, not value-).
Pretending their manipulation is -valuable- or -meaningful- is self-deception - the speaker calls that evil, because it sustains toxic power dynamics.
- Overall meaning
The dialogue as a whole expresses a principled emotional stance: