I've been on hormones for four years. as far as I know I pass, my voice passes, and I haven't been misgendered in years. I'm just not particularly feminine and have been boymoding whenever my family sees me.
but I only just came out to my parents, and suddenly they're asking questions like what changes I'm going to get from the hormones, and whether my voice is going to change. I told them I've been transitioning for a long time already, but they don't understand that I'm basically done, there's not much improving that's going to happen.
over the years I guess they got used to seeing boymoder me as a guy, and now they expect me to go further. they still use he/him and still call me their son like they're expecting me to tell them later that I want them to change how they refer to me.
talking to strangers or to my friends is a whole different world to them. people compliment me and say (albeit stupid) stuff like "I would have never assumed you were trans, you look like a cis girl." but my family still sees me as their son and brother and that's not going to change. I don't want to cut them off after they were so supportive but I can't stand the way I'm forced to think of myself around them.