I'm in my early thirties and a few of my coworkers and acquaintances my age are parents/married for 1-3 years. They tell me that coming home from work and your kid running up to you is the greatest joy in life and then they spend half an hour describing how they're one more bad day away from murder-suicide. However great (or at least tolerable) the wife was before the pregnancy, everything goes downhill super fast during and after, all old problems resurface and become worse, new problems keep popping up, everything about the baby costs money and time and energy and you end up having none whatsoever. They take on longer shifts and extra work days not just because they need money but also just to be away from home. They tell me they haven't bought a single snack for months because they know they can't afford it and would be taking food out of their kids mouths and the only time they have for themselves is after midnight when they can do an hour or two of pc gaming in exchange for worsening their already bad sleep deprivation. They envy my life and continuously tell me never to marry.

There was already next to no risk of marrying for me anyways since it's nearly impossible to find a half decent wife but so far every description of family life only looked like psychological horror to me. I'm not dealing with any of that.