>>11392980
coconut oil will work but probably not as well as actual lube. Everyone's body is different and reacts differently to different things, so you may need to experiment to find what works best for you. Since you are new to this, it may take time to recognize your prostate and to develop it so it becomes sensitive and pleasurable. You might get frustrated with this aspect, but if you keep it up, it will happen.

>>11393021
It is all kegels, the point of it is to both develop your pelvic floor muscles to a point where you can massage your prostate without toys and to teach you how to recognize prostate pleasure which is very foreign to most inexperienced people. In my experience it works very well but takes at least a few sessions before you begin to notice anything. I would advise you to treat it as practice towards achieving a prostate orgasm rather than expecting one to happen from it. Expectation often ruins the experience because you begin looking for results rather than just seeing what happens.