I feel stuck in therapy because on one hand I want to tell my therapist that I am bi and that I actually used to be trans in the past and have since detransitioned, but I also don't really want to talk about that because it's not really a huge part of my life and I feel as though admitting those things would forever color therapy in a way going forward that I wouldn't want because I dont want to work through trans feelings and issues of identity, I've already done that for years and years, and I dont want to be asked questions related to that, when I want help with other issues that I feel are more important. It reminded me of the only person I ever told anything, my friend, who I only told I was bi. She was amazingly supportive and there was nothing bad about that interaction and in some ways I felt relief that I got get it off my chest, but really ultimately I regret telling her because I just dont want people to know that about me. I want to control people's perceptions of me and am uncomfortable not being able to completely control a deeply held secret. I want to approach therapy in way that I seem like a straight cis man and want help related to being that identity and I dont want talk about being bi or detransitioned.