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>Its always the same.
Except it isn't.

You have examples like Orania (in South Africa) and RTTL (Return To The Land in the US based on a similar model).
https://www.returntotheland.org/

I suggest looking into the legal and financial framework as well as the selection process for members. (The Plebbitor, to the surprise of nobody, did none of this)

You also need to make it a viable community, what you described is an example of the ad hoc failures when creating a society/community (which is what you strive to create).
So there has to be a clear goal that is shared, perhaps based on minimum requirements that everyone has to work towards and a shared cultural basis (like being Orthodox, Baptist etc).
For instance, a certain number of hours of community work to keep shared spaces clean and well kept etc.

You also need an idea of what size you need to have a minimum viable society and what infrastructure that is required.
For instance, water, internet (shared expense), electricity etc... and how many are we talking about minimum to have something like your own school and kindergarten?

If you want your own schools but can homeschool, then perhaps 5-10 kids each year is sufficient.
With high fertility (3 kids per woman) and 20 years at first child for the second generation, then we are talking about a minimum size of ~70 adults.
To fill a class room every year (+15 children, preferably ~20) you'd need 3x that (this is fertility dependent, more kids per woman => smaller society is viable).

So for phase 1, with pooled homeschooling, 70 is enough and the ambition should be 210 adults in child bearing age and willing to make babies.
This is at least if you want the structure to last more than a decade or two.