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We don't really see enough of her home life to make a judgement. Certainly the way he talks in private in the single scene he's in is callous, or at the very least irresponsible, but we don't see how he actually treated her. I think it's a lot more likely that their relationship was like her relationship with her stepmother, superficially cordial but emotionally distant. Probably not a good father by any means, but given the competition.

>At least Gendo was around
Gendo fucking ditched him when he was 4 dude, he was not around. There's 1 (one) scene in the entire show where Gendo even talks to him about non-work related things and when Shinji tries earlier he shuts him down with zero hesitation or even an excuse.
>And where is her dad?
Where's Gendo any of the times Shinji gets put in the hospital?