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>which aspects of ABDL...
Wearing, having others wear, usage of 1&2, and to a lesser extent ageplay.
>how long...
About 25-26 years. I'm 31.
>what do you think caused you to be into ABDL?
The strongest memories are of potty training. Questioning why, but going with it. Then seeing my little brother still get to relax and let go.
Trust me, that's a little awkward now. My lil bro is my rock in life, we work together almost 40 hours a week on average (overtime, separate areas), and he's tripsat me hundreds of times.
>is it a lifestyle...
Definitely not a lifestyle. I enjoy this shit. It turns me on.
It's not necessary, but definitely intimate if someone else is involved, and hot regardless.
I can go without without a care. But if someone tries to deny me my porn reading/viewing, that person is not partner material anyway.
>are you incontinent?
No. I fantasize for immersion in arousal's sake, but I would never really want that.
>does your partner participate? is she/he incontinent?
My ex did. But not in the ways I really wanted.
She was more into ageplay. Which is cool, as long as everything else is. But it was an escape mechanism for lots of bad behavior instead (Hoarding... so, so many toys, panic and violent outbursts trying to clean them up and put them away; finding ways to buy more)
Whereas I mostly want peace in good environments. And making that into that turned out impossible.
And, sadly, trauma from bedwetting made getting intimate over that, even for comforting, very difficult.
Best we ever did was hump each other diapered. Her suggestion. Great orgasms at least.

I know many women into ABDL to some extent. And many women by proxy of just having a close asexual woman friend who tells me things.
But it really does depend on how they want and handle it, and handle life. I'm not into one night stands when it comes to intimate fetishism, so lots of things need to be right.
I'd rather a healthy relationship without it. That's about where I am