I play as a 120lb 5'6ft~ blonde femboy, because that is literally who I am. You play as an overly sexualized woman, because you are a repressed gay man.
Games are the only place I can live out a life and express myself; In modern America I can't, without getting some closeted chaser, jealous faggot, or roastie trying to ruin my life.
Whereas you play games to simulate some depraved power/sexual fantasy. I play games to connect, learn, communicate, and roleplay in an online space where I can't be stalked/easily harassed when I dont want to. We are not the same.