I (22 F) have been seeing this guy (23 M) for a little over a month now and he became my boyfriend around a week ago. He's been good to me so far (ie. values commitment, pays for everything for me, is always telling me how beautiful he thinks I am, always seems to put me before him, etc., seems very obsessed/focused on me) and I feel like we really understand each other from an emotional standpoint.

Neither of us are that experienced sexually. So far, we've done things that are sexual in nature (ie. dry humping, making out) but not penetrative sex.

The problem is that he asked me the other day how long it's going to be until we have sex and was asking if it's just that I never want to do it. This is the second time he asked this (he had previously said he'd wait however long I wanted)

I said that it wasn't true that I didn't want to ever, and that I'm just not ready yet. He said he wasn't sure if he could wait a long time period like a year. I asked him if that meant that if I didn't have sex with him in the next few months that he would not want to see me anymore. He responded that he was attached to me and that he didn't want that, but that if we keep doing what we're doing without penetration, he might get blue balls, and that it's hard to control himself. I started crying since I was upset and he went back to saying he'd wait.

I offered to try oral sex with him and it was horrible for me (it tasted terrible (like a sweaty sock bean boozled or something) and made me gag) and he didn't seem to enjoy it much.


I don't really know what to do-- he seems great in every other way and I don't want to lose him or hurt his feelings. He also keeps questioning mid-way through whether I'm into making out/grinding with him. I don't want to make him feel inadequate over this.