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Two (both cisf). Im an mtf (transbian) with a very codependent streak and draw in bpd women frequently. The last relationship was live in and had me as the primary breadwinner. She was very sweet and Im still in love with her, but she was actively sabotaging my transition and started emotionally cheating on me with her ex gf (also cis). I kicked her out and left her after she threw a tantrum where she jumped out of my car one day while it was moving and screamed at me that i was being threatening (as an mtf this risks me getting a dv call that puts me in mens jail; i had confronted her about ghosting me, as she was mad i hung out with friends without her she was out of town, when i was supposed to pick her up at the airport. instead she sent me on a wild goose chase around the city to find what train station she was at when she could have just waited at the airport terminal she arrived at lol but she decided to turn the favor of me picking her up into a punishment).
I really did my best with her and gave her all my time and a ton of money as well. In the end she was only kind when I was compliant, as soon as I established a boundary she acted like a wild animal. Im honestly not sure I want to ever date again after this experience, its been months and Im still reeling. Theres a lot more that could be said (constant mystery illnesses that prevented her from doing chores or school, financial manipulation pretending that she needed my income when she secretly had a weekly allowance, bad talking me behind my back, often making things up about me to our shared friends so i couldnt get closer to them than she was, not letting me have space to go to trans healthcare related appointments, soft launching a poly situation i didnt agree to).

Maybe some of these problems are due to her cisf privilege, but honestly I feel like a husk after just 14 months of her being around full time. She had me trained to tend to her needs 24/7, and the result was self erasure.