I am genuinely asking how can I possibly keep my hopes up when it all seems so grim.
I know I’m not alone and everything I’m about to say has been said before. I’m not special, I get it, that’s part of the problem desu. It doesn’t change the fact that I’m constantly on the edge of giving up again and traditional arguments have failed me.

I keep wondering what’s even the point?
>If I wealth max, she’ll just want my money and run.
>If I looksmax like I have been, she’ll just want eye candy and everything about the relationship will be vapid.
>If I take steroids, I’ll be putting my long term health at risk for a person who only loves an over inflated body. And will leave once it slows down.
>If I practice charisma every day, I’m just a funny guy at the party.
And for what? Another thing to worry about? A sexless and loveless marriage? Several months of simping over a girlfriend only to find out I will never get to kiss her. That last one actually happened to me, it’s not even in my head.

There are clear benefits to having a relationship.
>I could say I had girlfriend.
>People treated me better.
Some of the self improvement stuff at least has other benefits.
>Being fit also gets people to treat you better.
>Being healthy and strong makes your life easier.
>More money is always better.
>bold fashion choices makes you the life of a party.
But if I need to exert myself to an extreme to get a gf, then I’m not prioritizing these reasons anymore.

Maybe I’m just asking for too much. Idk
But again, what is it all for?
About all I genuinely got is
>a sense of purpose
>a warm bed at night
Neither of which am I achieving.

And the cost just keeps getting steeper.
>I can easily be arrested or lose my job for approaching the wrong person at the wrong time.
>Every rejection makes a new woman that tells her friends how pathetic I am.
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How do you guys keep your head up through it all?