i dident even realize i had gotten invaded most of teh time in dark souls 1,2,3. invasions were so rare when i played them. i just kept playing normally and even mistook invader players for NPCs. sometimes i only realized i'd been invaaded when invader died to random crap like fall dmg.
i got invaded a loooot in elden ring because i used Taunter Tongue. it was fun.
i never tried invading it seems like a waste of time