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>knowing what your ex is doing
unless you work together, live in close proximity or share close mutual friends(mistake) there's no reason to know what she's up to and if she's getting married
anyways - monk mode
>drop off the face of the earth
>focus on yourself, your goals and building a better man
>if you're employed keep your social contacts to colleagues and at work only
>disappear, delete facebook account, instagram account and whatever other social media you're using
>reduce browsing this shithole and whatever else you browse to a bare minimum
>use your free time for yourself
>research different forms of meditation and start practicing a little every day
>make it so that your whole world revolves around yourself and your inner Self
>read "Letting Go: The pathway of surrender" by David R. Hawkins
>dwell within yourself, learn how your emotional and thought loops work
>break negative conditioning
>start keeping a journal - no need to cover every little detail - just write down a few things that you did today, what you thought about, how you felt, what your plans are about tomorrow, what you didn't do and why, and how it made you feel
>dwell on what happens in your mind how you feel, what might be causing it.
>again, meditate
>at least once sit in silence and stare at a wall for 1 hour without doing anything, without distractions, without standing up and walking around, without listening to music, without background noise if possible
>a few times a week try sitting with your back straight up and don't move. it will be nice and cozy for around 10 minutes and then you'll wanna move - an itch you'll wanna scratch, a joint you'll wanna readjust, whatever - don't. the point is to train your mind to direct its focus. the objective is to not move anything. all the movement you can do is blink and make sure your back is straight up. at some point you'll discover how the only thing you have left is your breath and focusing on it is exhilarating.
