my mom used to berate me for doing things too slowly as a kid and sometimes she would take me for car rides where she would suddenly get very angry and then she would drive the car in an intentionally dangerous way, swerving, accelerating, and she'd yell inside the car at me with the windows closed: "wanna die? do you wanna die?" and all i did was clutch the sides of the car cushion and stare straight ahead.
when i was 4 she showed up outside of my daycare where my dad was picking me up and she beat my dad bloody with a wooden baseball bat and i could see my dad's blood on the pavement and they were fighting and i just stood there crying that was the most alone i've ever felt on earth. then the police pulled up and i saw my dad stare into my eyes as he was shoved into the police car
my mom never apologized. ive had suicidally low self esteem throughout my life and i hit myself and break things often because i seem to be a useless person