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First, I only speak of likelihoods, and I do so in the tone of the frustrated idealist turned cynic. It doesn't have to be that way, but it usually is.
Second, there are some fantasies that are harder to ''trace'' and some that are rather obvious. Anything involving being cucked is the equivalent of dumping a girl who's started saying "I don't think it's working", of not attempting something you'd know you'd fail, of giving up rather than facing competition and coming last. It's even less thinly veiled if the fantasies are about her getting fucked better than you could, with a cock bigger than yours, by a guy taller than you, working a position higher than yours.
It's ego preservation and the desperate attempt to feel like you're still holding on to some sort of control. It's not self-loathing disguised as surrender, it's surrender disguised as a kink to prevent self-loathing. It's vice reframed as virtue.
With cucking, it at least has some honesty, some nobility to it, some acceptance of shortcomings. It's much more offensive to me when I'm offered something utterly worthless, something that's been rejected over and over again, as a gift. And not just in a one-man's-trash-is-another-man's-treasure way, no, but with pomp. Or, by far the worst, their self-gratifying sexual fetish is ousted as a selfless act of service. ''I am such a low worm, I'll bring forth any sacrifice, I'll even lick your asshole'' - no, you spend your entire existence jerking off to horny daydreams of that and you're trying to seek nobility in it?!
I don't think loneliness or lack of achievement mean failure, really. Nor is being a loser something to truly be ashamed of. But having nothing to offer, being nothing, and offering someone else to degrade you: That is shameful. There is nothing to degrade, you have already degraded yourself. You're asking me to kick a dog and pretend I've tamed a lion.
I could go on but I assume you get my way of thinking.
