>>212170519That's where the original "hot dinner" meme came from, a Friends-style evolution of an old Ebaumsworld or /b/ meme mocking Sirico for an interview where he got razzed about his seething. I don't remember if it was Letterman or Jay Leno or one of those other hawks, but he went on a late-night show and showed his ass when they tried to poke fun about the catering incident. Clearly playing along for the joke but annoyed at it even being brought up. I have no idea if they (Michael/Tony) even reconciled before the latter died.
Robin Green's memoir has more information on the cast and drama but there's a wide range of reading material, docs, books, behind-the-scenes footage etc... you have to be a real Sopranos autist (or just an autist) to dive through all the available source materials to paint a complete picture.
I guess I sort of get Tony's base issue, my grandfather was a diabetic and would throw real fits if someone microwaved a pizza after dinnertime or what have you, the smell filled the house and nauseated him or irritated him. I'm guessing Tony had similar issues and was sensitive about it, but with old-school machismo stopping him from acknowledging it openly. Similar parallels to Italian toxic masculinity often lanced throughout The Sopranos, I find it somewhat spiritually compelling how often reality mirrors the fictions we weave