>>212384587the middle to upper classes raise children by Concerted Cultivation. basically their entire childhood experience is highly planned and manufactured. but without them knowing because it's designed to make them think it's spontaneous. it doesn't work if the kid knows they're being handed artificial wins. the subconscious knows though. humans are perceptive. when you keep getting wins no matter what it's suspicious. "finding yourself" is when they do things for once in their life without helicopter parents. it's the subconscious trying to break free.
in short it's rumspringa for normies.
most of them will go back to their manufactured lives of privilege where they punch the clock, push papers, collect salary, meet a partner, buy a house, have kids, repeat the cycle of which they were raise, retire, raise grandkids, repeat the cycle once again with the grandkids. circle of life etc etc
the ones who truly "find themselves" are the ones who fully cognize this whole scheme and live a real life.